Power of Resilience

Interesting talk about what we need to teach our children for them to grow in to great adults despite having had hardship in childhood………

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During lunch today I took the time to see the TED speech by Andreas Schleicher: Use data to build better schools

And I have to say it appealed to my logical brain, but it just felt really wrong…….

I think it is great to put attention on education to help countries that can benefit from it, to build and generate equal opportunities in the business world. But I also believe that it is a broken model to measure education like productivity. We see more and more you people in the western world loosing their interest in education, higher rates of depression and suicide among teenagers ever recorded in History. IT has become about performance to be measured and compared by PISA and all forgotten about the human individual and how they develop as a whole person. Our educational systems, and PISA enforces it, are treating people like an industrial product that needs to be better and quicker produced with the highest Return On Investment possible.

And it is not about not agreeing with, that we can be better and learn more, its about how our educational systems educate people out of their innate natural curiosity and creativity and alienate them from the human being the where born to become.

Looking at the high educational levels in Asia, China a country I visit regularly, with one of the largest high education populations in the world, I meet many many highly educated young people, looking back on their educational experience and really really HATE IT, it makes them feel bad thinking about it, so much so they tend not to read or want to learn much more…. PERIOD ! IS THIS WHAT WE WANT?

I agree that the speech was a great factual speech, that portrays one side of the educational coin measured by PISA, but are we willing to sacrifice our children, their well being as an individual and their future by supporting and applauding an educational system that is run like industrial slaughterhouses; getting the best prime meat, with the best ROI out the door without noticing that it is no longer a pulse…….

Well that was my take on it, and I could be wrong or just seeing it in a different light, so go have a look and let me know what you think……

Andreas Schleicher: Use data to build better schools

Stand out and stand up for who you are……

Growing up is all about being able to stand on you own. And be willing to stand out if that is, What it takes to live your life in the sun…….

 

 

 

 

 

 

The task we as parents have is to guide, set rules and challenges our kids, not for our sake, not for the sake of the society, but for their sake. Our aim should be to help our kids to grow up to be mature adults not only by age, but more important psychological maturity.

Many young people today have been nurtured and protected to a degree, that it has sheltered them against the very challenges in life that would/should help them mature by facing it on their own. It might be challenges that in the moment seem scary and frightening, but when dealt with, open the mind for new levels of maturity.

If these levels of maturity of the mind does not happen during the childhood and teenage years they will remain unresolved and will turn up in life again and again. For most people the challenges that would evoke the maturity of the mind, but left unresolved, will grow more and more frightening with age. Many if not all adults experiencing this later in life will find it very challenging to make the psychological leap require to move on in the levels psychological Maturity that science point to our brain is designed to undergo.

Be there for you kids and teenagers, but as the guide and expose them to the challenges that life brings, and let them have a go at it, be there to pick them up IF they cannot get up on their own. Give them praise and more room to grow when they succeed and Expose them to other mature adults that can have a positive influence on the their maturing, and teach them to challenges life and people they encounter……..

 

Intelligence is a gift……kindness is a choise…

In this Princeton University graduation address, Amazon founder Jeff Bezos makes the case that our character is reflected not in the gifts we’re endowed with at birth, but by the choices we make over the course of a lifetime.

What matters more than your talents…

Follow the path that’s no-path

Young people today face more challenges that our parents and we ever did, and the biggest is not coming from the world external to our selves. The biggest challenge is the process of the leaping from the adolescent psyche, to the mature adult.

It is a process that, looking back, the elder in the societies used to have a firm grip on, but this is not happening anymore. Teenager and their parents are both to close to be the objective observer and guide to help the teenager through this process of transformation into mature adulthood.

The great Mythologist Joseph Campbell once said in an interview:

“There are two aspects of the hero, I think. The hero is somebody whom you can lean on and who is going to rescue you; he is also an ideal. To live the heroic life is to live the individual adventure, really. One of the problems today is that with the enormous transformations in the forms of our lives, the models for life don’t exist for us.

In a traditional society–the agriculturally based city–there were relatively few life roles, and the models were there; there was a hero for each life role. But look at the past twenty years and what has come along in the way of new life possibilities and requirements. The hero-as-model is one thing we lack, so each one has to be his own hero and follow the path that’s no-path. It’s a very interesting situation.” 

Joseph Campbell (with Michael Toms), An Open Life, p. 109

And I agree that it is an interesting situation, but for me the interesting thing is, how we as a society will have to change completely how we prepare our next generations for the world they will live in. Already today we see in business massive hordes of people operating in the world, still being more or less the prisoner of their adolescent psyche……….

Rolle Modeller …….

Det er vigtigt som forældre at sikre at vores børn har de rollemodeller i deres liv, som kan sikre at de får muligheden for at vokse op og blive modnet til livet som voksne.

Det er ikke sikkert, faktisk er det næsten usandsynligt at vi selv kan udfylde alle rollerne, så det er vigtigt at vores børn har kontakt med andre voksne gennem skole, sport, familie og andre fritidsinteresser, som kan være med til at udfylde de rolle modeller, de har brug for, for at blive modnet til livet, så de har en lyst til at møde den udfordring som livet er.

Det handler ikke om at vi skal søge efter et liv som vi ønsker det, det handler at leve det liv vi har som den vi ønsker at være i verden.

The Crisis in Education in Korea and the World

Another interesting blog on education from the Lifeboat foundation blog.

Motion holder ikke kun kroppen på toppen !

Exercise makes you think

What is the Self ?

Se her et, efter min mening, interessant/inspirerende youtube indlæg, som taler til et opgør med tanke om, at vi er separate individer adskilt fra verden omkring os. Et opgør med tanken fra det forringe århundrede om at hjernen og kroppen er 2 separate enheder.

Mennesket er i sig selv et økosystem, som er en del af et økosystem…….Måske finder vi oplevelsen af at være os selv, der hvor vi i vores eget indre økosystem er i fuldt balance.

PowerTeen hjælpe unge med at finde deres egen indre balance……..

Vi taler til den unikke menneskelig søgen efter mening i livet, en søgen som er specielt stærk i teenage årene og som kan forblive livslang hvis ikke den løses. For vi tror ikke på at menneskets søgen efter mening i livet vil give dem det svar de søger….

Det mennesket har brug som vi ser det, er en konstant oplevelse af at være sandt i live, have formål og retning i livet. At vide hvordan de ved, at de er tro mod sig selv og den de er, når de sandt er sig selv…..

Joseph Campbell sagde det med sine ord:

“People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning for life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances with our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.” 

“Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when you are the answer.” 

“If you do follow your bliss you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.” 

Vi glæder os til også at hjælpe dig med at finde hjem til dig selv………

Does your path have a heart?

“Does this path have a heart?

If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t it is of no use.

Both paths lead nowhere; but one has a heart, the other doesn’t.

One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it.

The other will make you curse your life.

One makes you strong; the other weakens you.”

― Carlos Castaneda